Dear Fellow Writer,
I know you’re afraid.
I know you’re wondering whether its worth even beginning.
Maybe you’re thinking others have written this before and better.
You could be confident you’re going to get rejected.
It might be you believe your story sucks and no one will be interested.
Or you’re wondering if you can really do justice to the message desperately want to share.
Are you a writer and ever experienced one or more of these, or something similar? I’m guessing so. And how do I know this? Because I’ve been there. Many times.
I’ve had 5 books published, read by thousands of people, and I still feel that way when I come to write.
I have another two books I need to write, and with both of them I’ll likely have this kind of anxiety. But what I’ve learned over the course of those 5 books is that it is possible to have those anxieties – and still break through and create the work you were made for.
Writing a book, a blog post, a poem – whatever you’re writing – it’s a courageous act. You’re making yourself vulnerable. You’re sharing a piece of yourself with the world.
In many ways, it’s like taking your heart out of your body and putting it on show for people to see. Overcoming our writing anxieties, is akin to having to courage to be vulnerable.Because when you write and publish something, you’re making yourself vulnerable.
And you’re not alone in that.
In fact, most writers, somewhere deep inside, feel insecurities and anxiety about their work.
The question is, do we have the courage to write our story and share it with the world?
It would be easy to give up. Seriously, I’ve considered it several times, even recently. Why bother if people are going to reject my writing – because if they reject my writing, they’ve rejected me. Right? And that’s where we need to surrender ourselves and change our mindset.
What I’ve learned from my own dealings with deep anxiety and insecurity about writing, is that we need to stop defining our value by what we do, and recognise we have value because we are alive. And that our stories, our words, have value because they are ours – not because others value them, (or not).
This is the key to breaking through that vulnerability barrier. When we define our value by who we are, not by what we do, we can let go, and be free to risk, free to fail.
Because we all have failures. That’s part of life.But that doesn’t make us a failure as a person.
Being vulnerable will always be scary. There will always be insecurities around our work. We’re sharing a part of who we are with the world – and that’s not easy. And if our work doesn’t do as well as we’d hoped, there will be a grieving. One book I launched didn’t do as well as I hoped, and I as much as I believed it was a success just for being published, there was still a grieving I had to go through for the limited success it had. But I grieved this failure – and focussed on the emails and messages I got from the relatively few people who read it, telling me how much it had impacted them, meant so much more than sales figures. And above all, I chose to believe I was a success because the book had been published. And this freed me from the control of fear and anxiety, and allowed me to celebrate the achievement of having the book published
I mean, so what if others have more qualifications or followers? That doesn’t give their stories more value. Your story is your story. It has value because it’s yours.
We might be hearing a similar set of ideas – but we’ve near heard them in your voice.
As I said, I still have insecurities about my writing. Being vulnerable is still scary. But what I’ve learned is you can overcome your fears. You can learn to manage them, and free yourself from their power. Put them in the back seat of the car, instead of allowing them to be the driver.
A decision to separate your value, and the value of your story, from the response, gives you just enough courage to dare to share your work with the world. And the moment you do, you’re a success. Whatever the outcome. And I want that for you too.
So what I do now is help others tell their story. I work with writers with stories to share, and help them overcome their fears. I help authors distill their book ideas into a clear, simple plan and outline to follow, and make the whole process less overwhelming. And I’m with them every step of the way providing encouragement, support, and practical assistance as they do the work of sharing their stories with the world.
I do that simply because I fundamentally believe all of our stories have value, because they are ours. And we have value. So we shouldn’t let fear control us, we just need to let go and be willing to be vulnerable.
If that’s you, and you want that support, I can help. You can e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org or go to the link below to set up free consultation with me – I’d love to help you overcome your fears. I’m done letting fear stop people I know with great stories from sharing their work and finding their voice.
Either way, don’t be afraid. Dare to step out and share your story. And in the midst of your anxieties and insecurities, know you are not alone.
With you all the way,
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