Why Being a Friend takes more than a Click (Five Minute Friday)
For the last five weeks I’ve participated in Lisa-Jo Baker’s “Five-Minute Friday”. The concept is simply writing for 5 minutes, straight from the heart, on a given subject – and then sharing it.
No edits, no marinading or reflecting – just write and share.
If you’re a writer or blogger of any kind, I’d definitely recommend it – it really pushes you and helps you grow as a writer.
Today’s theme is ‘Friend’ – which was a testing one given I wrote a post on it last night and was shattered after a busy week. But I had a go. So here’s my thoughts on ‘Friend’ – do let me know what you think!
How many friends do you have? In a world where we can ‘friend’ people we’ve never met by social media, we can be friends with lots of people we’ve never met. I have hundreds of Facebook friends and over 1000 Twitter followers.
But am I really ‘friends’ with all of those?
What really is a friend?
I think the meaning of the word has been lost, or diluted. We’ve made ‘friend’ a byword for someone we’ve had one conversation with online or in person, and only have the odd interaction from time to time afterward.
Is that a friend?
Not in my book.
Being a friend is much, much more than making a click on your mouse.
A friend is someone who when you’re having the lowest moment you’ve had for a long time – as I did earlier this week – are there to pick you up. They speak truth and encouragement into your life when you need it the most – no matter what else they may be doing.
Friends tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. They speak truth and love into your life. They remind you who you really are, and don’t put conditions on their love.
And these friends can be physical, face to face friends, or close relationships you’ve made online. The medium doesn’t necessary mean the relationship is any less. Some of my closest friendships are with people who I’ve never met face to face.
In the midst of my dark day of the soul this week I interacted with three good friends who I trust completely – and who I’ve never met. Meanwhile one of my older and closest friends, who knew nothing of my struggle at the time, happened to message me at that exact moment – with a word of encouragement.
A word he’d had from God about a gifting and calling for me.
It was no coincidence this happened at the exact moment it did. Because we’re such good friends, there is something divine in our friendship – and God spoke to Him at that precise moment because I needed to hear from him.
You see a friend isn’t a person you connect with only once and barely interact with.
A friend is someone who, essentially, is Jesus to someone else.
Who will love them unconditionally. Accept them as they are, but not let them stay that way. Support them when the whole world is against them. Forgive when they make mistakes. Show them grace. And give them a kick up the backside when you need it.
To be a friend is a commitment.
And we all need friends
and to be friends.
This post is part of ’5 Minute Friday’ – today, on the theme “Friend”.
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