Hello friends, welcome back to my blog. Today is kind of an update/catch up post – it’s a busy day for me, writing wise, with two guest posts on other blogs – and a new look for this site! There’s lots of news so let’s get going:
A New Look – Going Pro
First, the obvious – the new look. I decided a few months back I wanted to up the ante in terms of quality, design, and content. The thought was, as I’m looking to move into doing more coaching & e-courses, and with a book coming out, it’s time I got more professional with this site, in terms of design, accessibility and in terms of quality.
In the last 48 hours social media has gone into meltdown in reaction to the disgraceful comments made by Donald Trump in 2005, comments which effectively endorse patriarchy and rape culture.
Comments which have no place in civilised society.
And no place in the White House.
As a regular visitor to social media, there has, rightly, been outrage – both at the comments themselves and some people’s reaction to them. Including from myself.
There’s been many comments which have left me dumbfounded. One of these was from a major author a critic of Trump’s comments – who made clear there were people DM’ing them their outrage, but not saying anything publicly for fear of losing their platforms.
And when I saw that, I was shocked. read more…
“It’s got to be perfect” the old song goes. And many of us, when we’re doing any kind of work, can easily begin to think it has to be.
After all, we live in a world where value comes from what you produce, what you earn, your position, and, at times, your relationship status. That’s one of the main reasons we buy into perfectionism so easily. The pursuit of perfection is ingrained in our culture.
But perfectionism can kill our joy, it can ultimately bring us down, and make us feel worthless. And as indeed research has shown it to have a negative impact on our physical and mental health, and decrease our chances of success.
And in art, it can prevent us from ever sharing our work, and freeze our creativity. read more…
“Believe in yourself”.
How many times have you heard that mantra preached to you? I’ve lost count of the times I have.
I think a more accurate, helpful phrase might be
‘Trust In Yourself’
You see I’ve always a great believer in encouragement. I’ve always been an optimist when it comes to other people. I have great belief in others potential. I love to encourage others, and I have great confidence in others ability to grow and thrive.
But I have none for myself. read more…
One value I place above all is authenticity. And on a blog, this means always being honest, and being vulnerable as much as is appropriate.
I firmly believe the best creative work – including our lives – is always honest, always authentic.
Tell the truth, the last few months have been tough for me. Without going into too much detail, I’ve been feeling led to confront issues from my childhood, which I’ve buried and run away from for 20 years. They’d been undermining me and controlling me for too long – and this year, I knew it was time to confront them. I knew this would mean going down a dark path, into the valley, and knew this would impact me – but I also knew it was, and is, absolutely necessary for me to grow.
What I didn’t expect was the depths to which this would go, and has gone.
We all know there are massive problems in the world. You don’t need to look very far to see violence, oppression, injustice, inequality, prejudice, corruption and above all fear.
Consumerism rules the world. And the problem with consumerism, is that it’s about certainty. To thrive, consumerism needs profit, and profit comes from taking as small a risk as possible. You find something which works and stick to the formula. Because the formula delivers results.
But the secret to solving the worlds problems, ironically, doesn’t come from certainty. It comes through risk.
It comes through pushing through fear and daring to imagine a new tomorrow. A different, better future, in any field of work and life, only comes through creativity.
Transformation comes, above all, through imagination. read more…
I read a post recently, from last year, called ‘A Letter To Donald Miller’.
And for me, those guaranteed, fix-all solutions these type of courses sell us? They simply don’t exist.